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TOTW: ear piercing

This week I’ve chosen the topic of piercing children’s ears as our topic. How young is too young? Should you wait and allow them to decide for themselves? Is piercing ears only for girls or is it ok for boys too?

Personally I have no problem whatsoever with people who choose to pierce their young babies’ ears, but I wouldn’t do it. I think if I have a daughter, I’d like to wait until she expresses an interest and then we can make a big deal out of it and go get it done as a reward or just for being a big girl or something. I’d like for her to remember it (fondly, hopefully).

Now for my son, if he decides to pierce his ears, he can do it when he is old enough to make his own decisions, pay for it himself and care for his piercings. I just personally am not a fan of earrings on males. I think it is tacky. Having said that, my DH had his ear pierced when I met him (he was 20) and I liked it.  Must be an age thing. ;)

What do you think?



Comments:

  1. I don't like earrings on males either. Or any jewelry, really. For girls I would rather wait until they wanted it. I am allergic to most metals and so I always had infections and problems with earrings. I wouldn't want to do that to a baby. I'll just let my kids do it when they are old enough to put them in/out and care for their ears properly, if they ask. I do think those little tiny earrings are adorable though.
  2. Quote:
    Originally Posted by B'sgirl View Post
    I do think those little tiny earrings are adorable though.
    me too. i think they look so cute on babies.......just not mine!
  3. To a baby? God no. No offense to those who do it, but god no. When Kaitlyn was very very little (a couple of months) we were walking in the mall and somebody at the little piercing hut was getting their baby girl (apprx same age) done, and she was screaming bloody murder. Made me both want to cry, and want to grab Kaitlyn and run away!
  4. I often had reactions with cheap earrings I bought in college too. It was likely fake gold. I think real gold is non-reactive.

    I just felt my ear lobe and wondered if my hole is still open...its been years...

    edit: sorry this is J, didn't sign out of C's login....and to redo it is too much work right now .
  5. Yeah, real gold is okay for me as long as there is no nickel in the white gold. I had a spacer in my engagement ring at first that gave me a reaction, but my actually ring is fine.

    So, J, how do you feel about C's comment about earrings looking tacky on males? Obviously you haven't worn it for awhile though.
  6. I'm going to wait until the girls want it and are old enough to care for them.
    But, like others, I do think those little earrings are so cute. When I see an infant with pierced ears, I always think it looks really cute. I just want it to be something that they really want, not me.
  7. I'm with you guys on all of it...

    I had to wait until I was 10 to get mine done and i still didn't take care of them well enough!

    Side note, for those who do want to get a baby's ears pierced.. take them to a piercer not a place like Claire's etc.. they use guns, whereas a piercer uses a needle. I had my ears done with a gun but I have had piercings with a needle... the needle is much more accurate and much less painful.
  8. I am 1/2 Mexican so i know that for some people it's a cultural thing and just something they do. I decided against it and let my daughter decide for herself. She didn't want to get them done and I was so glad that I hadn't made that decision for her. She is such a stubborn kid, I think she may have hurt her own ears at a younger age while throwing a tantrum, so there is another reason I'm glad I didn't do it. BUT, she decided last November that the girls in her class were getting their ears done, and she wanted to be a big girl too. She was a trooper at 5 when they did heres. In a way I was relieved, this opens up more gift options for a girl that can be hard to shop for
  9. I want to let my daughter choose when she wants it done. I still remember when I got mine done. It was part of my birthday present, but a total suprise. One day my mom and I were shopping and we went into a hair salon and my mom asked if they could pierce my ears. They told us to come back in about 15 minutes. I was so suprised and excited that my mom was actually going to let me get it done.

    As for piercings on males. DH has his ear pierced but he doesn't were an earring anymore. He had to take it out for work and never wears it anymore. Like C, I liked it when we were younger but not so much now. I my son came home with one, in high school, I guess I wouldn't have a fit. But I don't know that I would really like it either.

    Along the same lines, do you think men should only have one ear done? or both ears? It seems so common to have both ears done now, I guess I don't really care one way or the other.
  10. It looks weird, IMO, when guys have both, or any of the cartlidge done
  11. Cameron won't have her ears pierced until she's older. There is no set age but I do want to wait until she is ready to ask for it. I don't mind caring for them (helping her) but I really don't want her to get hurt because she's to young to know her limitations with earrings. Let me explain, I was 4 when I got mine done. I had a freak accident (that I don't remember totally) involving a car door and an earring. The earring ripped out and a ton of blood followed. It healed fine but I do remember it hurting like crazy. I am constantly snagging my earrings on stuff like hair, clothes, etc. I want her to be able to know how to untangle herself calmly before she has her ears pierced KWIM?
    Noah, he can get his done when hell freezes over, lol. DH also had his done in high school/college but hasn't worn one in years. I also liked it then but I would freak out if he put one in now.
  12. I think they are so cute on lil girls but not on boys. D wanted an earring last year over my dead body. He thought it was okay because his dad's ear is pierced. The ex H has a very odd feminine side *decorates, don't want to sweat or get dirty, no sports, no working on cars, etc...* and even tho if an earring is in the right ear on the right man--I could handle it. His just makes him look even more fem like and I have no desire for D to follow in his footsteps.
  13. I didn't get my ears pierced until I was 12 years old and I wanted it SO bad that I drove my parents bizerk until I had them done. I was the first one in my family. Neither my mom nor either of my older sisters had their ears pierced. My mom ended up getting hers pierced shortly after and then my sisters did when they were 18 and 25. My dad was the force behind not getting ears pierced, he was just very against it not exactly sure why. Now I have 12+ piercings 6 of which I don't wear anymore due to work, same goes for my husband ... but I'm not planning on letting our daughter get her ears pierced until she wants it and has wanted it for a long while. Not saying that I would want her to wait until 12 but I think somewhere between 6-8 may be a suitable age. My husband did want to get her ears pierced as a baby and I said no way. Our daughter is confused for being a boy all the time - oh well so was I and I survived.
  14. I wouldn’t pierce anyone’s ears unless they could choose to have it done. To each his own, though. That said, if N ever wants to, she will not be allowed until she is 13. I, too, have metal allergies and had problems with my earrings (which I got at 13). They had to be real gold or silver, and I still had problems with oozing. I let them grow shut at some point in college.

    I don’t really care for them on men. Well, they look good on some men but not others, if that makes sense. I know B wouldn’t be able to pull off an earring, but he has a friend with one, and the friend looks fine. LOL I guess I'm weird.
  15. Quote:
    Originally Posted by CC21 View Post
    I want to let my daughter choose when she wants it done. I still remember when I got mine done. It was part of my birthday present, but a total suprise. One day my mom and I were shopping and we went into a hair salon and my mom asked if they could pierce my ears. They told us to come back in about 15 minutes. I was so suprised and excited that my mom was actually going to let me get it done.

    As for piercings on males. DH has his ear pierced but he doesn't were an earring anymore. He had to take it out for work and never wears it anymore. Like C, I liked it when we were younger but not so much now. I my son came home with one, in high school, I guess I wouldn't have a fit. But I don't know that I would really like it either.

    Along the same lines, do you think men should only have one ear done? or both ears? It seems so common to have both ears done now, I guess I don't really care one way or the other.
    These days, women often get 2 or 3 earrings in each ear, so I reckon a boy who isn't allowed even 1 earring in 1 ear will think it strange. Of course it's the parent's call but a boy will think it odd if his multipiered mom says no to one little ear stud for him.

    Of course, many boys go for both ears pierced, which is fine, I think.

    (In our household it's actually the wife who is less in favor of earrings!)
  16. We were going to get Marissa's ears pierced when she was old enough to get them done, but we haven't done it. At this point in time, I am willing to wait until she is old enough to decide. when I got my cartilages done, I asked the lady doing them about Marissa and she said that when they are as young as she was at the time (almost 6 weeks I believe) they recommend it since they won't be tempted to play with the earrings. And that they usually have the most trouble with little girls between 1 and 3 years of age getting them pierced.
  17. It never occurred to me to get a baby's ears pierced though I know a lot of people do it. I got mine done when I was about 9. I'm going to wait until Helen asks for it. DH would absolutely freak if I suggested getting it done now. He cringes every time he sees a baby or toddler with her ears pierced. I guess my preference is just based on my own experience. I only got mine done because my mom and sister had their ears done. It never occurred to me to do it before then.
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